Re:What unexplained things do we believe in?

[dew7]

I would probably say it looks okay but if pressed about the dress then I would say that I do not care for it much.  I can't help not being honest because it goes against my nature and yes that little voice is very strong within me!  :>

Kimmie, why are you worried about hell?  It is not for people to judge and you sound like a person who is really nice.  I would not get bent out of shape about that but if you are interested then feel free to e-mail me at the account listed and I will share my beliefs but the topic is taboo on the forums.  Have a fantastic day.  :>        

[Jeysie]

Personally, I likely would have said something like "I love the dress, but you probably should get it in a size up." If she didn't have time to, I'd probably warn her that it looked too tight. My reasoning is, not everyone at the dance is going to be a nice person, and if I look crappy in something I'd rather hear about it from a friend who will be nice, than an "enemy" who will be a jerk.

Peace & Luv, Liz

[Storm]

When I do lie, I'm pretty decent at it... but I hardly ever flat-out lie to anyone, even when it's in my best interest. That's probably why I suck so bad at job interviews (Well, that and having 0 self-confidence and ablitilies )

I'm not against lying in some cases, especially when it's about trivial matters where the truth would be more harmful - if that girl really looks awful in that dress I'd tell her that, but if it's just a little thing and she can't help it anyways, I'll keep it to myself.

The same thing goes for lying when it comes to protecting your privacy. Say someone asks you about something you'd rather not tell, but you can't avoid answering them altogether since that would give the wrong (or right) impression. So it's ok to say stuff like "that's not prozac I'm taking, those are vitamin pills" or "I'm using those condoms for balloons" even if it's a lie. It doesn't hurt anyone and it's none of their business anyway

However, I'm definately against lying when it's meant to decieve/mislead and hurt other people for your own pleasure... even if it's just as a joke
I once told someone the song "Otherside" by the Red Hot Chili Peppers has a homosexual meaning (because of the line "take it on the other side") .
He got really upset when he found I made that up, though I thought he knew I was joking

[B'rrr]

lol, that means you are a good lier storm, most ppl are on to me when i make a joke  

and the tip i got for job interviews is that i have to exaggerate or atleast not beeing modest) about my abilities/skills/etc, it seems that i suck at that  

[Johnmichael]

It happened was at a party last night girl asked me if she looked fat in some jeans and i nicely suggested that she might want to get a few sizes bigger......she wasnt very happy.

[Kimmie]

My reasoning is, not everyone at the dance is going to be a nice person

oh dont worry. i dont think any1 wants to spoil prom night...altho if certain ppl said anything i know for a fact there would be quite a few broken noses...if its the ppl im thinking of they would hav a LOT of enemies and so wouldnt dare say anything about one of the *head girls team*[/glow]

[Say]

Heh, I tried the lying or kissing-up at job interviews and
that SO didn't work for me.  

LOL DONT LIE OR KISS UP, lol omg, kissing up is THE worst, its so freaking kish it's even disgusting it's not lying, it's being realistic but in a good way aka optimistic, thinking good stuff and all that crap

Im honest, there is nothing worse than someone who has no self confidence in what they do, not just to mention someone who has no certainty out of anything, who is vague, random, weak personality, it's just takes out a lot off your side.

[Jeysie]

Im honest, there is nothing worse than someone who has no self confidence in what they do, not just to mention someone who has no certainty out of anything, who is vague, random, weak personality, it's just takes out a lot off your side.

Oh, yeah, I forgot... two more reasons why I suck at job interviews.

Peace & Luv, Liz

[dew7]

Jeysie please stop being so hard on yourself because it is starting to get me depressed that you feel so down.  Your person adds a lot to these forums and you need to have a positive attitude and the world can so screw themselves when they are ticked at you.  This is another reason my faith is strong because it helps me to get through the day when almost everyone is being mean to me.  LOL :>  

[racx_00]

so it doesnt mean im goin to hell

Well you arent on my list so hell isnt for you

[Kimmie]

ah well, guess i wont be meetin up with jason in the next life, u know- me being all angelic and all  

[Jeysie]

I'm sorry I'm depressing you, Dew. I get Harrison depressed, too.

But it's hard to feel self-confident about stuff. I'm always doing stupid stuff and making mistakes, and it seems like every time I let myself think I'm good at something I either end up finding out I'm not, or I screw it up somehow. I'm always afraid of saying I'm good at things in interviews, because I worry that I'll end up not being able to follow through if I get the job.

Harrison hasn't been helping lately, either. Every time I screw up something or do badly at something (which is often ), he says it's because "I didn't try hard enough." He claims he's just trying to motivate me to do better, but since I'm already doing the best I can it just makes me feel worse about messing up. I guess I'm kind of flattered he tends to look at me through rose-colored glasses and think I'm better at stuff than I am (though he constantly claims he doesn't) but it's getting irritating.

I come off a lot more "eloquent" online than I do offline. Whenever I'm around someone I don't know offline, I tend to either be very reticent and quiet, or babble and stammer like an idiot. I have several people offline who have told me that when they first met me they thought I was nice but a few bricks shy of a load, and were (usually pleasantly) surprised to find out later I have some brains.

Unfortunately, Harrison's mom was one of those people... for the longest time she wondered why Harrison liked hanging out with me because she thought I was an airhead. Also, unfortunately, I have a suspicion that some of the people I've interviewed with over the years have thought similar things.

Peace & Luv, Liz

[dew7]

Well, I think that you are smart Jeysie if that helps to make you feel any better and you must believe in yourself.  God helps me to do this but I think that each individual needs to find their own path to their true destiny and calling upon this Earth.  
[Hope mentioning God does not offend anyone -- I am trying to encourage someone so I think it is necessary.  :>]

[dew7]

BTW, Jeysie I would suggest that you and Harrison watch "It's a Wonderful Life".  This movie is old and black and white but it is my favorite move and always cheers me up when I am depressed.  It always is available for sale in the U.S. around Christmas but I am sure that you will be able to find it for rental or you could order it on-line.  I do not think you will be disappointed.  Just my two cents.  (Yes!  500 posts Awesome for me!)

[racx_00]

ah well, guess i wont be meetin up with jason in the next life, u know- me being all angelic and all  

I make occasional visits to heaven so watch out Kimmie i might see you

[Drunken Chinchilla]

Why would you want to do what normal people do? I'm crap in real life small talk and stuff, I'd rather just have silence than babbeling crap but I've got to the point where I don't care and I often act like I'm *TOO* interested in what the person is saying so they think im taking the piss hehe. Ahhhh aint the little things of life great!

[Jeysie]

Mostly because normal people have things like social lives, significant others, and decent jobs... while I spend my mornings as a file clerk in an office where nothing works, and then I spend the rest of the day at home alone on my computer.

And that's just social issues... if I got into biological issues we'd be here all day.

Being unique is only a good thing if it's the sort of uniqueness that brings you happiness. In my case, I'd rather just be like everyone else, because my uniqueness has mostly made me miserable.

Peace & Luv, Liz

[dew7]

Heck without my family and friends, I would be worse off and I do not dwell on the bad stuff.  Cancer twice -- survived with help of radiation and chemotherapy.  Learning Disabled -- overcome with hard work still shows up sometimes -- eg. reverse letters -- laugh it off  Vision Problems -- had vision therapy -- exercises to overcome it --- and I could go on and on but I do not let it get me down because I have faith and courage.  You must let your faith grow in you.  It does not matter to me what you place your faith in but I think it is important for the human pscyche to feel that there is a greater force than they are.  Be you a Hindu, Jew, Christian or something else it helps to define who you are.  Now I need you to stop feeling sorry for yourself and focus on the positive.  A good way to start is to mediate and thank this force for all the positive things in your life.  Just give it a try and get back to me.  It may take a few months but be patient and I am sure you will overcome.  Carpe Diem -- "Seize the Day"  LOL        :>

[Jeysie]

I try to look on the positive, but there's a lot more negative. All I can ever see is all the problems I have that I can't fix... most of which I've had for years. And then there's the things I wish I could have that I can't get... and I don't mean material things you can buy, either.

Edit: And I wouldn't say I feel sorry for myself. All but 1 of the lousy things that have happened to me in my life are a result of my own screw-ups and failures, so I don't deserve pity from anyone, let alone myself.

If I'm going to feel sorry for someone, I'd rather it be for someone who has deserved and earned better things but didn't get them because life cut them raw deals out of their control.

Peace & Luv, Liz

[dew7]

Well, I hope things work out for you in the future.  :>