Love/Hate Relationships

Questing Character · July 19, 2004, 06:58:12 PM

But did *you* ever get beat up for liking someone??

Say · July 19, 2004, 08:48:42 PM

har har I got you both beated up and Im older than both of you, If I were to share all my stories around here I would have to run away in shame and not to show up my fugly face ever ever again, eehhh...

J-ROC · July 19, 2004, 08:56:10 PM

I'm older than all three of you. stop your whining. You still have years of self doubt to go before you get to my level!

I remember I was walking through a crowd with a female friend of mine. We ended up getting tangled with these two girls. My friend said, "Oh, he's with me." The two girls responsed with, "You can keep him."

I am a sexy beast. (read: I'm uberfugly)

Jeysie · July 20, 2004, 08:28:10 AM

Say: You're engaged, therefore you are now disqualified from the "So-Fugly-No-One-Wants-Me" category.

Anyhoo. OK. I'm 24... which is ~3 years older than Koko and Say, ~7 years older than Questie, and ~2 years younger than J-R. However, I have only dated one guy for exactly a month, 7 years ago, and he dumped me to go back out with his ex-girlfriend. So unless J-R has had less relationship experience than that, I beat you all in the "So-Fugly-No-One-Wants-Me" category!

(throws down some random gauntlet)

Peace & Luv, Liz

koko_99_2001 · July 20, 2004, 08:45:24 AM

*picks up gauntlet*
*hands it back to Jeysie*

I doubt James has you beat...but I still say, I'm 21 and haven't dated ANYONE...

Jeysie · July 20, 2004, 09:54:38 AM

Yeah, but I think three more years is significant... plus my ex-boyfriend only dated me 'cause he was lonely and I was nice to him... he probably wasn't really attracted to me.

Peace & Luv, Liz

J-ROC · July 20, 2004, 11:27:03 AM

This is getting more personal than I choose to express. So, without detail, I can say that I truthfully have you beat, Liz.

I live a sad and pathetic life of "just friends".

Say · July 20, 2004, 01:32:21 PM

I'm 22 now

besides, I do love Michael but he's blind

Jeysie · July 20, 2004, 03:40:08 PM

Quote from: Say on July 20, 2004, 01:32:21 PMI'm 22 now

besides, I do love Michael but he's blind

Sorry... I couldn't remember off-hand if you had turned 21 or 22. (sheepish look)

And... you have many other fellows who are also enamored of you to some degree or another... surely they can't all be blind?

Peace & Luv, Liz

B'rrr · July 20, 2004, 04:16:38 PM

wheeeee!! joins the group!!

I'm almost 23, i have dated but when i look back at it, I wish i hadn't cuz it had brought me nothing but tears and sorrow $:-\$ ...I might try it again in the far future ...or not

J-ROC · July 20, 2004, 05:34:53 PM

Ah, the sorrow. Been there, done that, wrote a the book, produced the t-shirts. I'm the point where I need to try again. The prospects just aren't presenting themselves very well.

Jeysie · July 20, 2004, 05:38:58 PM

Have you, J-R? I thought you've never been anything but "just friends".

Peace & Luv, Liz

J-ROC · July 20, 2004, 05:41:34 PM

I was.

I was madly in love with her for four years.

She only saw me as a friend.

Draw your own conclusions as to how that affected me.

Jeysie · July 20, 2004, 05:45:54 PM

That doesn't count as dating, though. Suffering unrequited love is different than suffering through a sucky relationship. I suppose the question is which one B'rrr meant. (I had assumed the latter.)

There was a fellow I had a major crush on for 3 years when I was in middle school... and a fellow I've been in love with for 7 years...

Peace & Luv, Liz

J-ROC · July 20, 2004, 05:51:54 PM

It's more complicated that "just" unrequited love. Yet again, I'm unwilling to go into details about it.

Simply put, I was her little effin' daisy. "I love you, I love you not, I love you, I love you not..."

Yonkey · July 20, 2004, 05:54:24 PM

I pictured unrequited love to be:

You: I love you, I love you, I love you...

Other: I love you not.

$:-\$

J-ROC · July 20, 2004, 05:58:07 PM

That's why it's a little more complicated than unrequited love. There's lies, other people, etc that make it all kind of messed up.

Jeysie · July 20, 2004, 06:02:28 PM

Yonkey: Only if the person you love is "nice".

If they're a manipulative jerk, for instance, it could very well be...

You: I love you.
Other: (lies) I love you, do nice things for me.
You: OK. (does nice things)
Other: No, wait, I don't love you, sorry.
You: If I do (nice things here) will you love me again?
Other: (lies) Sure!

(continue in circles until insanity ensues)

Or, if you're dating my ex-boyfriend:

You: I love you.
Other: My girlfriend just dumped me, and I'm lonely, so I love you now.
Girlfriend: Yoo-hoo, Other, I love you again!
Other: I love her.
You: Fine, I want to you be happy.
(time passes)
Girlfriend: Other, I don't love you anymore.
Other: I'm lonely again, can I love You?
You: No.

Peace & Luv, Liz

J-ROC · July 20, 2004, 06:05:22 PM

Somewhat similar to scenario 2.

Over four years.

Yeah, I'm a slow learner.

koko_99_2001 · July 20, 2004, 07:10:01 PM

I'm thinking we need some kind of "Sad Love" thread...but I'm sure you guys can come up with a better name than that!

Cat

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