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Started by Questing Character, July 19, 2004, 06:58:12 PM

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Jeysie

How about "Romantic War Stories"? ;P

Peace & Luv, Liz

J-ROC

Or "Love and Hate and why it should never involve a banana cream pie..."
Just look at me,
I'm living proof that,
TIME HEALS NOTHING!

- from Time Heals Nothing by Danko Jones


Jeysie

I'm suddenly torn between wanting to know what a banana creme pie would have to do with love and hate, and *not* wanting to know. (Whipped cream and/or chocolate I could understand... but a banana creme pie?)

Peace & Luv, Liz

Yonkey

I'm not too keen on banana cream pies, but the this now has its own thread.  8)
"A wish changes nothing. A decision changes everything."

J-ROC

Quote from: Jeysie on July 20, 2004, 07:20:49 PM
I'm suddenly torn between wanting to know what a banana creme pie would have to do with love and hate, and *not* wanting to know. (Whipped cream and/or chocolate I could understand... but a banana creme pie?)
Nothing, that's why it should never be involved.  It would only complicate things.
Just look at me,
I'm living proof that,
TIME HEALS NOTHING!

- from Time Heals Nothing by Danko Jones


Johnmichael

Ive had two major heart breaks in my life, I had a GF of two years and we were engaged but she broke up with me a day before my birthday last year, said we were two young to be settled down, other one my first gf i ever had, she was pretty much first everything. The only reason me and her even broke up was because she was a senior when i was a feshman and when she graduated she moved away so we ended it, around christmas of last year she was killed in a car wreck and thats when it really hit me how in love with her i actually was.
Now everything is clear
I erase the fear
I can disappear
(please) I don't ever want to make it stop

Say

:( I remember that, you were depressed for weeks :(


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Johnmichael

That was a really depressing period of my life, im over my two year gf, but it still hurts to think about Nicole but im glad that i had someone in my life that meant that much to me, however short are time together was.
Now everything is clear
I erase the fear
I can disappear
(please) I don't ever want to make it stop

Say

I'm glad it's all better now, you are really sweet and really mature already, a very special guy indeed <3 you certainly diserve better and I know you will get so :)

Good news are that... OMG in like... 4 more days you will be 1 year older! :D omgomgomgomg <3 :) <3


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Jeysie

Ugh, that really sucks. :( I'm semi-lucky in that I've lost people close to me, but never anyone I was romantically involved with. :-\

As for unrequited love... :P Heck, I've found a guy who's handsome, sweet, talented, has a personality that matches mine the best so far out of everyone I've been friends with, let alone had feelings for, and hasn't killed me yet... too bad he doesn't want a romantic relationship with anyone. So much for the idea of finding your soulmate!

Peace & Luv, Liz

J-ROC

I never said I didn't want a romatic relationship with anyone...just not long distance.  ;B
Just look at me,
I'm living proof that,
TIME HEALS NOTHING!

- from Time Heals Nothing by Danko Jones


Kimmie

QuoteI was madly in love with her for four years.

mine was for 2 yrs, but it hit me the other week, just out of the blue, that i DO NOT NEED HIM  ;D there i said it. he caused me pain, but also hav some nice things to think about. all i gotta concentrate on now is finding sum1 who will return the love i give out  :suffer:

john... <3u...Say is right, ur such a special guy, i know that already by only speaking to u for a few weeks  :-* *mwah*[/glow]
Shimmy to the Kimmie



I <3 Connor but he is beyond my reach!

Jeysie

J-R: Very funny! ;P :suffer:

Peace & Luv, Liz

Storm

Quote from: koko_99_2001 on July 20, 2004, 08:45:24 AM...I still say, I'm 21 and haven't dated ANYONE...

Hey, I didn't date anyone before I turned 21. Things only got a helluva lot worse when I did :o
That's why I don't date anymore. Well, that and the whole not being able to stand other people thing :P
"Never argue with idiots. They'll drag you down to their level and beat you with experience."

Johnmichael

#34
You have to go through alot of crap to actually find the one you want, you shouldnt just give up though no matter what happens, I honestly believe there is someone for everyone, just got to go through alot of jerks to find them.
Now everything is clear
I erase the fear
I can disappear
(please) I don't ever want to make it stop

Jael

Quote from: Storm on July 21, 2004, 01:49:53 PM
Quote from: koko_99_2001 on July 20, 2004, 08:45:24 AM...I still say, I'm 21 and haven't dated ANYONE...

Well, that and the whole not being able to stand other people thing :P

Haha! Story of my life too. Most people I know are just so unbearable there's no way I'd consider being in any kind of exclusive relationship with them ;)

I've had a few crushes, but they've never crossed into "unrequited love" territory. However, it also sucks to be on the receiving end of unrequited love. I've had one "Nice Guy" (NOTE: you'll have to change the URL. Stupid censorbot :P) who'd been convinced I was the answer to all his problems. I had no idea how to make it very clear I wasn't interested. It was just really uncomfortable and messy. Fortunately, it was just before both of us graduated and went to different unis.


Jeysie

#36
* Jeysie idly wonders if her problem is that she's a "Nice Girl".

Problem is, I genuinely *like* helping people out and doting on other people, and I genuinely *don't* like people doting on me. I guess that could come off as "doormat". :P

At any rate, men seem to date the jerk women most of the time, too. :P I had a lot of male friends who would confide in me, then go drool after some pretty, popular chick who treated them like dirt. Granted, I wasn't attracted to most of my male friends, so I likely wouldn't have dated them even if they had been interested. But it always bugged me to see them going off and trying to date jerk girls instead of trying to date nice ones. :P

In the same vein, I have had many guys who either had girlfriends/wives or who loved some girl, and when their significant other was angry with them, or the girl they loved didn't want them, they'd come and flirt with me and seek attention from me. Of course, when their SO stopped being mad at them, or the girl they really liked decided she liked them back, they'd drop me like a bad habit. Fortunately I learned enough from dealing with my ex-boyfriend not to be drawn into this behavior too deeply again, but, I mean... WTF? What am I, some kind of weird security blanket? :P

Peace & Luv, Liz

Storm

I've never had an unrequited love. The secret for avoiding it is simple:

1. Be around/talk to as little people as possible, especially people you might develop a romantic interest in;

2. If you're starting to like someone, or notice that someone is showing interest in you, avoid that person at all cost, be extremely obnoxious to them if you absolutly have to be around them, and stop thinking about them (meditation exercises help there).
"Never argue with idiots. They'll drag you down to their level and beat you with experience."

Questing Character

Good strategy Storm.  Except for being one of those grouchy, lonely 87 year olds later in life. :(
Also, denying your hormones which (particularly at my age) are raging out of control, probably has negative consequences.
I think the solution *really* is to become rich and famous. :D



Jeysie

I guess it's just because we're wired differently, but a life spent avoiding interacting with anyone seems kind of lonely and pointless to me. :P

(Granted, I tend to be somewhat reclusive myself, but it's out of an inability to interact with people without coming off as a moron, rather than a *desire* not to interact with anyone. I'd give anything to be naturally outgoing!)

Peace & Luv, Liz