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Started by Storm, December 12, 2003, 08:18:13 PM

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Say

have you ever considered it may be also the social circles you may frequent instead of yourself? I mean, I dont think there is anything wrong with you per se, I do believe everyone sort of fits better in some places than others, in general you have to admit men around our age are usually really stupid :P (no offense here, lol) but I think sometimes men are just... narrow mind sometimes, untill actually grow out of things and get to settle down or stuff, the problem also I think women get to mature faster than men, which for exactly I see totally normal you would relate with someone in his 30's since, you do have a lot to offer personally speaking, well its my opinion, you do have a personality, something not many women in their 20ish can say, many just take a lot of time trying to define and redefine themselves, maybe thats a bit intimidating also? I dont know myself haha, I feel as unattractive and unwanted as you do, thats why I share this few words with you because I know what it feels like to wonder whats wrong or whats missing, its not entirely about physical and its not entirely about personality, I think those things sometimes goes beyond our reach, and thats why I mentioned that before, my 2 cents anyways. :/


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Jeysie

Quote from: copycat on December 25, 2003, 03:33:37 PMYou have anything against men in their 30's? :-X
Besides, what's age got to do with anything? I've got a male colleague who's dating a women a lot older than him, and one of my female colleagues is living together with a man a lot older than her and they seem to be pretty comfortable with the situation.

Well, I have no doubt that some people are quite content with dating someone far older than they. But I...

I find I can't be truly attracted to someone unless, among a couple other things:

One, I have to be able to relate to them/understand them. If someone has vastly different personality traits/tastes/beliefs/values/etc. than I, then I might still enjoy being good friends with them, but there won't be any real romantic connection. (Which is why my ex-boyfriend is my *ex*-boyfriend, actually.) "Opposites attract" has never been my cup of tea.

Two, I have to feel I'm on the same "level" with them in terms of maturity, life experience, emotional "power", etc. I don't like feeling significantly inferior or superior to a potential mate. (Or to a potential close friend, for that matter.)

A 30-something guy or older is likely to have more life experience, wiser thought process, maturity, etc. than I. So if I was in that sort of experience I'd always feel like "the kid"... not the sort of relationship I'm interested in. (In fact, I usually feel like "the kid" around the older men I'm just friends with, which is bad enough.) I need someone just to love me and experience life with me, not take care of me or protect me. If a guy's already experienced all the stuff that I am currently experiencing, and all the stuff that's new to me is old hat to him, it's just condescending-feeling and depressing. In fact, in many ways I feel vastly inferior to my *roommate*, and he's only 3 years older than I am. :P

Conversely, if a 30-something guy or older is actually *my* age maturity/experience level, it ergo means he's immature and inexperienced for *his* age level, which I usually find to be kind of a turn-off.

Not to mention the fact that, as I said, once the older men who flirted with me found out my real age, they were no longer interested anyway.

Quote from: Say on December 25, 2003, 03:39:52 PMhave you ever considered it may be also the social circles you may frequent instead of yourself? I mean, I dont think there is anything wrong with you per se, I do believe everyone sort of fits better in some places than others, in general you have to admit men around our age are usually really stupid :P

Well... I'm a geek, I'm attracted to geeks, and I like being friends with geeks, so I usually, well, try to hang out with geeks. So if geeky guys aren't going be interested in me... well, I'm toast. I could never date a "sterotypical jock" or a "ditzy" guy without going completely insane. Besides, any guy who didn't have a high-functioning brain would just have his eyes start glazing over when I opened my mouth, anyway... and not in a good way, either.

Peace & Luv, Liz

KlingonPansy

I'll just interject here as the seventeen year old who's been mistaken online for a person 10-15 years older than he really is, and thus has had many beautiful flirtations, attractions, et cetera that have turned to dust once my real age is discovered.

This is where I'm screwed.  The average 17 year old girl (from my experience) is one or more of three things:
1. Overly randy
2. Under educated
3. Shares few to none of my interests

And more often than not, it's all three.  All the women that I'm interested in are much older than me, but it still wouldn't work because of my age.  People aren't interested in dating people substantially younger than them, from my experience, except for a short-term fling (which I don't want).

Uh, yeah, what was my point?  None of the good women want me.  Yeah, that sums it up.
By the last breath of the not four winds that blow
I'll have revenge upon not Fortunato
Smile in his face I'll say "come let us go
I've a cask of Amontillado"

Jeysie

Quote from: KlingonPansy on December 25, 2003, 04:39:28 PMUh, yeah, what was my point?  None of the good women want me.  Yeah, that sums it up.

Where were you 7 years ago when I was 17, Mikey? ;)

Peace & Luv, Liz

Jeysie

BTW, I *hate* my voice. It sounds so bland and little girly and ditzy to my ears. I wish I had a more mature, intellectual, alto and "sensual" sounding voice. :P

Peace & Luv, Liz

KlingonPansy

Quote from: Jeysie on December 25, 2003, 04:50:17 PM
Quote from: KlingonPansy on December 25, 2003, 04:39:28 PMUh, yeah, what was my point?  None of the good women want me.  Yeah, that sums it up.

Where were you 7 years ago when I was 17, Mikey? ;)

Peace & Luv, Liz
With a crush on Lauren Benbrook, who was only four years older than me. (winking smiley)
By the last breath of the not four winds that blow
I'll have revenge upon not Fortunato
Smile in his face I'll say "come let us go
I've a cask of Amontillado"