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shy people club
« on: April 16, 2008, 02:22:24 PM »
a topic for all the shy people on this forum. As far as I can read thera vare a lot of shy people over here. This includes me too.
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Re: shy people
« Reply #1 on: April 16, 2008, 02:35:10 PM »
Definately shy. I feel awkward in any social situation where I don't know people, and I tense up and tend not to speak enough.
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Re: shy people
« Reply #2 on: April 16, 2008, 02:42:12 PM »
Me too. It takes me a while to become comfortable with people, and I NEVER like to be in very large groups of people.

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Re: shy people
« Reply #3 on: April 16, 2008, 03:00:31 PM »
*joins*! I'm good at pretending I'm not though, or so it seems :)
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Re: shy people
« Reply #4 on: April 16, 2008, 03:03:15 PM »
I'm good at that online. In person?  :no: Only if I've had a couple drinks do I usually loosen up and start my sense of humor going.
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Re: shy people
« Reply #5 on: April 16, 2008, 03:14:38 PM »
Yeah, same here, but I barely drink so I easily drink too much and start hugging everyone :P
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Re: shy people
« Reply #6 on: April 16, 2008, 03:16:48 PM »
 I don't know if you could call me shy, I talk to people in public readily enough and I can interview or give a speech well, I have been told. That said I don't care for what a lot of other people do in their free time and spend my free time in public libraries, not bars. :P That makes me somewhat introverted and, well, less socially oriented than a lot of people. 

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Re: shy people
« Reply #7 on: April 16, 2008, 03:19:09 PM »
I grew up on the Internet; so adapting to offline societies took a long time. I really did not have any in-person human interaction between 4th grade and college. I also lived in caucasian communities in Texas and Georgia; so coming by someone that would even talk to me as an equal was difficult (I am biologically Chinese but raised completely as an American).

It took until my 3rd year in college to actually be comfortable in the offline society. Actually, it was directly after being rejected by a female friend I was quite infatuated with. I think after that, I realized that I really did not have much to be worried about. Rejection isn't bad. It only lets you know where you need to improve.

I started my unshying process by cleaning up my look. I shaved. Bought casual clothes. I tried several styles I never would have before and came up with a new one for myself. This new style I imposed upon myself actually affected me from the outside in (in a positive way).

I am able to speak to people now, but I still have several problems. My biggest problem is not being able to look people in the eye when I am talking to them.

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Re: shy people
« Reply #8 on: April 16, 2008, 03:21:31 PM »
I used to be quite shy. And I still am kind of when I'm in new situations. But thanks to grad school and now being in the working field...I've had to overcome a lot of it. :)
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Re: shy people
« Reply #9 on: April 16, 2008, 03:23:49 PM »
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Re: shy people club
« Reply #10 on: April 16, 2008, 03:29:08 PM »
Weird. The other topic disappeared! I will repost what I typed:

I grew up on the Internet; so adapting to offline societies took a long time. I really did not have any in-person human interaction between 4th grade and college. I also lived in caucasian communities in Texas and Georgia; so coming by someone that would even talk to me as an equal was difficult (I am biologically Chinese but raised completely as an American).

It took until my 3rd year in college to actually be comfortable in the offline society. Actually, it was directly after being rejected by a female friend I was quite infatuated with. I think after that, I realized that I really did not have much to be worried about. Rejection isn't bad. It only lets you know where you need to improve.

I started my unshying process by cleaning up my look. I shaved. Bought casual clothes. I tried several styles I never would have before and came up with a new one for myself. This new style I imposed upon myself actually affected me from the outside in (in a positive way).

I am able to speak to people now, but I still have several problems. My biggest problem is not being able to look people in the eye when I am talking to them.
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Re: shy people club
« Reply #11 on: April 16, 2008, 03:31:06 PM »
I just read it and now it's gone. XD
 
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Re: shy people club
« Reply #12 on: April 16, 2008, 03:31:32 PM »
Yeah, what the heck happened to the topic!?
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I don't drink heavily in front of people, usually just get buzzed enough to loosen up. And this doesn't happen often cause I don't get in those situations and it's never when I'm out, it's at people's parties or whatever. I've never done the bar thing. Shyness SUCKS.
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Re: shy people club
« Reply #13 on: April 16, 2008, 03:32:59 PM »
Something's wrong, I think. This is the second time I've tried to split/merge a topic and posts have disappeared. I'm reporting it to Neil.
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Re: shy people club
« Reply #14 on: April 16, 2008, 03:38:12 PM »
I posted in it! Mysterious :( Perhaps the forum doesn't want us to be shy :O
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« Reply #15 on: April 16, 2008, 03:39:34 PM »
I did too...but my post is not even in my list of posts on my profile :-\
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Re: shy people club
« Reply #16 on: April 16, 2008, 03:40:52 PM »
What Cat meant is she went to move the topic(to off topic I wager) and it deleted it instead. It didn't just vanish completely on it's own. :P
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Re: shy people club
« Reply #17 on: April 16, 2008, 03:46:19 PM »
There's a delete button an there's a split/merge button. :P They're right next to each other but Cat would definitely notice if she deleted something instead of splitting it. :P
 
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Re: shy people club
« Reply #18 on: April 16, 2008, 03:49:05 PM »
I clicked "merge" then found the topic to merge it with (since there were two threads "shy people" and "shy people club" and then on the next page, I clicked "merge"...and everything disappeared...
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Re: shy people club
« Reply #19 on: April 16, 2008, 03:57:07 PM »
That's why I meant. You went to do that and the forum screwed up, not you :P
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