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Re: shy people club
« Reply #20 on: April 16, 2008, 04:23:45 PM »
Uh oh, the forum's dyyyyyiiinnnnnng. :o

For me, I'm currently on medication for Social Anxiety Disorder. It helps, but it's still something I struggle with on a daily basis. I have a hard time making friends IRL, and by nature I'm a loner anyways. I'm a lot like my dad in that way, we'd both much prefer to stay home and read a book or play WoW than go to a party and socialize.
I've gotten so much better over the past couple of years though, partly due to everyone here and the fact that I started hanging out in the CSC computer lab this year. Being at such a small school, and in the smallest major here, helps too. We only have 3 professors and all the classes are really small, my CSC courses I'm in currently only have 6 and 8 people in them respectively, so it's easier to get to know people.

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Re: shy people club
« Reply #21 on: April 16, 2008, 04:30:25 PM »
Yeah, I think that helped me a lot too. The Computer Science field in Memphis has a lot of professors, but few students actually major in it. I get around 6-8 people in every class I take, and I know all of them, lol.

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Re: shy people club
« Reply #22 on: April 16, 2008, 05:10:25 PM »
Hooo boy... yes, I definitely belong in this group too. I'm one of the shyest people you'd ever meet. Although I've been getting better over the years, I generally suck at talking to people I don't know very well. To make things worse, I need a LOT of personal space and time to myself; hanging out with groups of loud people for any longer than an hour exhausts me both emotionally and physically, and unless I can leave, I always end up grumpy and tired. This makes a lot of people mistakingly assume that I dislike them, but it's not true! :( I do like people, but I'm shy and I can only handle so much..

Shy people are pretty awesome though. ;)

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Re: shy people club
« Reply #23 on: April 16, 2008, 05:12:22 PM »
To make things worse, I need a LOT of personal space and time to myself; hanging out with groups of loud people for any longer than an hour exhausts me both emotionally and physically,
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Re: shy people club
« Reply #24 on: April 16, 2008, 05:16:26 PM »
My post went away, too. Anyway, I'm pretty shy until I get to know people. I NEVER like being in very large groups of people (which is difficult around holidays, since my wife comes from a large family :suffer:). I don't think I would ever have even had a date if it weren't for eHarmony!

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Re: shy people club
« Reply #25 on: April 16, 2008, 05:17:05 PM »
I wouldn't say I'm necessarily shy. A lot of it depends on the circumstances. If I'm an outsider surrounded by people who do not have anything in common with me, it can be hard to feel comfortable, but otherwise, I tend to do OK.

How you feel about yourself, and your interests, also has a lot to do with it. Im just at the point where I really don't care whether others approve of my interests or not.

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Re: shy people club
« Reply #26 on: April 16, 2008, 05:53:07 PM »
I'm better than I was. But I'm trying not to think about tomorrow but I can't help it. The butterflys in my stomach are going nuts :(
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Re: shy people club
« Reply #27 on: April 16, 2008, 06:10:35 PM »
I'm better than I was. But I'm trying not to think about tomorrow but I can't help it. The butterflys in my stomach are going nuts :(
And what happens tomorrow?

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Re: shy people club
« Reply #28 on: April 16, 2008, 06:36:20 PM »
Going to a club to see The Misfits. Very social environment.
It doesn't help I've gotta meet my friend's bf (and I'm getting over liking her)
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Re: shy people club
« Reply #29 on: April 16, 2008, 06:37:43 PM »
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It doesn't help I've gotta meet my friend's bf (and I'm getting over liking her)

Ugh. Im sorry to hear that PKC. Been there, done that. :P

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Re: shy people club
« Reply #30 on: April 16, 2008, 06:41:34 PM »
Uuuggghh...  Nervous as hell right now (and a little excited), going to meet Dylan in twenty minutes, supposedly to watch Aliens. But last time we tried that two weeks ago we got about 1 minute in and then neither of us were thinking about the movie at all... :P

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Re: shy people club
« Reply #31 on: April 16, 2008, 06:53:49 PM »
I'm not really sure if I'd classify myself as shy anymore.  I used to be extremely shy, but now I find it fairly easy to talk to just about anyone.  I am pretty quiet in large groups though, and don't really go out of my way to control the conversation like some people do. :P  I just speak up when I have something to say, and just listen otherwise.

And it also really depends on how comfortable I am with the person.  If it's someone I just met, it's rare for me to be chatting non-stop with them.  It's doable, and I've had some interviews where it's been like that as well, but it's mentally exhausting to do that.  I know exactly what HCB means, when you're around people that love to talk... but you don't feel like it.
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Re: shy people club
« Reply #32 on: April 16, 2008, 08:33:57 PM »
Uuuggghh...  Nervous as hell right now (and a little excited), going to meet Dylan in twenty minutes, supposedly to watch Aliens. But last time we tried that two weeks ago we got about 1 minute in and then neither of us were thinking about the movie at all... :P

My my...I wish I had that situation, cause that's a shyness I get over quickly if it's obvious the other person is super into me.
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Re: shy people club
« Reply #33 on: April 16, 2008, 10:14:51 PM »
I used to be shy as a child, heck my elementary school teachers would constantly tell my parents that they were attempting to break me out of my shell.  Didn't happen, or at least to the extent that they hoped.

In high school ooomg no one believes me when I say that I used to be shy, they immediately start laughing.  But I dunno I'm comfortable with my high school peeps, even the teachers.  However, I am still shy around guys and around people I don't know... so I'm not a social butterfly yeeeet.
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Re: shy people club
« Reply #34 on: April 16, 2008, 11:09:26 PM »
Uuuggghh...  Nervous as hell right now (and a little excited), going to meet Dylan in twenty minutes, supposedly to watch Aliens. But last time we tried that two weeks ago we got about 1 minute in and then neither of us were thinking about the movie at all... :P

My my...I wish I had that situation, cause that's a shyness I get over quickly if it's obvious the other person is super into me.
I think he is... and vice versa... which is kinda complicated since we met after I put an ad out for a roommate, which we're still doing. :P But the whole thing stresses me out bad cause I've never had a boyfriend before and my SAD just makes me freak out and feel so stupid sometimes... :-\

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Re: shy people club
« Reply #35 on: April 16, 2008, 11:56:58 PM »
I clicked "merge" then found the topic to merge it with (since there were two threads "shy people" and "shy people club" and then on the next page, I clicked "merge"...and everything disappeared...
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after I first try to make the topic I got an error that the site didn't existed. Wen reopening the TSL site my topic was gone so I created a new one. That's why there were 2.
Here at the forum I get more open but in real life  :-[
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Re: shy people club
« Reply #36 on: April 17, 2008, 01:44:26 AM »
It doesn't help I've gotta meet my friend's bf (and I'm getting over liking her)
Ouch... been there, it's no fun. :-\ I hope you have a good time anyway!

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Re: shy people club
« Reply #37 on: April 17, 2008, 02:28:28 AM »
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Yeah, me too. For me, the difference is so great that it's almost like I'm another person online than IRL.

Same here! The closer the person I'm with, the smaller the difference though :P Usually, when meeting someone for the first time, I just get quiet, or talk about really stupid stuff and say things of which I later think 'whyyyyyy did I say that'. I also find it very hard to analyze what other people want and expect from me, which doesn't make it easier either, because in those cases I'm just constantly wondering whether I'm doing it right or wrong.
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Re: shy people club
« Reply #38 on: April 17, 2008, 04:44:42 AM »
Around people I don't know that well, I'm shy.  I try to be as close to my personality online as I am offline, but I have to feel comfortable with a person to really let myself go.
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Re: shy people club
« Reply #39 on: April 17, 2008, 12:33:31 PM »
With people I know, I don't shut up. With people I don't know very well, I can carry a conversation, but I won't go too deep. It's not that I'm shy, I just tend to let people I don't know do the talking so I can work out what they are like, and get a feel for their personality etc..

Sometimes, I'll avoid talking to people I don't know because I'm just not in the mood to talk. But yeah, I'd say my online and offline presence is very similar... although offline I tend to be more moody. Unless I am moody online?
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