shy people club

[MangoMercury]

You?  Far from it!

EDIT: *TOP OF THE PAGE DANCE*

[awesomeasapossum]

*Is not shy at all.*

[snabbott]

My mom and my wife like to start conversations with random strangers - I just don't get that concept. It's not just that I would be uncomfortable doing that (which I would), but why would I want to?

*realizes that he is posting in a forum full of relative strangers  *

[Tage7]

If you didn't want me to go into philosopher Tage mode, it's too late.

I will speculate that if survival is an instinct we cannot avoid as animals, there are at least two differences I see between your action and your wife's action. You will try not to get involved and basically show that you pose no threat to anyone around you at any given time. On the other hand, your wife tries to make friends with everyone to show them she poses no threat. Also, it may be regarded as a technique to create alliances which would help in her survival against larger predators (lol, I'm not talking Godzilla or anything--perhaps just other humans that are prone to violence).

Of course, all of this is just wild assumptions. I'm sure someone else has a much more acceptable (and provable) explanation, lol.

[racx_00]

Pose no threat by not getting involved? I thought that was more "I don't care to speak to you, leave me alone and I won't harm you."

That's how I usually mean it.

[FataliOmega]

If you didn't want me to go into philosopher Tage mode, it's too late.

Perhaps its more of a cultural thing. Human beings are social 'creatures.' It has been proven, to function properly, we need connections with many other human beings. So, how do the two genders, traditionally, make those connections.

Traditionally, men were/are the breadwinners, and so they go to work where they are put in a setting with like minded, coworkers. They make their connections there. Easy.

Stay at home women, on the other hand, are forced to actively seek out their connections. Unless they are part of a church, or another social 'structure,' they do not have an easy answer.

Now, I know some of this traditional stuff is changing, but culture changes slowly. Perhaps we're seeing some of the remnants of this past circumstance.

Anyway, this is my thought.

[Jafar]

Sorry, I'm too shy to join clubs.

[icarus]

lol 

[chucklas]

I don''t think that I am shy now, but I know that while I was growing up I was extremely shy.  I guess I felt as though I didn't have a whole lot in common with other people, perhaps it was because I am the youngest of 8 brothers and sisters and I just wanted to be left alone...I'm not really sure.  I would talk with other people and go out...etc. I just never felt like I really fit in.

When I was 19 I served a mission for my church in South America and ever since then I have not felt shy.  Perhaps it was 2 years of talking with complete strangers in a language I could hardly speak, or perhaps it was just getting older and getting over it.  I don't know for sure.

[PirateKingChris]

Well I certainly showed my shyness at The Misfits show. I didn't talk to anyone I didn't know, just hung out with my friends. *shrugs* Oh well....The show was GREAT by the way, though I'm half deaf even today.
And my friend-who-I'm-trying-to-get-over-liking's boyfriend was a pretty nice guy, it was his idea to go to the show too....The one thing though, if I had tattoos and piercings, I'd look like her boyfriend's brother 

[FataliOmega]

When I was 19 I served a mission for my church in South America and ever since then I have not felt shy.  Perhaps it was 2 years of talking with complete strangers in a language I could hardly speak, or perhaps it was just getting older and getting over it.  I don't know for sure.

Sounds like a great, life changing experience, Chucklas. I envy you. 

[Yonkey]

One definite advantage I can say for shy people is that we're more independent.  Since we're not interacting with many people, we don't depend on many people for advice/opinion/direction/etc.  In turn, that makes us more resilient, intelligent, creative and unique.

[PirateKingChris]

   Very true, Yonkster!

[hercrabbiness]

*Is not shy at all.*

What? What!? GET OUTTA HERE, NON-SHY PERSON! :say:

I kid, of course. How would we shy survive without the outgoing?

[Tage7]

How would we shy survive without the outgoing?

the intarnets

[chucklas]

Sounds like a great, life changing experience, Chucklas. I envy you. 

Life changing to say the least...it was because of that experience that I deciding not to do anything with my programming background and went into teaching.

[racx_00]

One definite advantage I can say for shy people is that we're more independent.  Since we're not interacting with many people, we don't depend on many people for advice/opinion/direction/etc.  In turn, that makes us more resilient, intelligent, creative and unique.

I'm not shy, and I don't have a problem with depending on others for advice or opinions. I keep everything to myself in regards to feelings etc.

So I have to disagree with that. That's more the social bees...

[Suzie]

One definite advantage I can say for shy people is that we're more independent.  Since we're not interacting with many people, we don't depend on many people for advice/opinion/direction/etc.  In turn, that makes us more resilient, intelligent, creative and unique.

I actually agree with that

[PirateKingChris]

I do too!

[Tage7]

Well, I will agree with that to a point. I believe we have the ability of not relying on people for things which does make us stronger in some areas; however, I believe that works the opposite way as well. In other words, unshy people have the ability of relying on people for things which makes them stronger in different areas.