Haids' Thread

[ladidada]

Something very similar happened to my brother last year. He went brain-dead and my parents had to pull the plug. It was 3:34 in the morning when I got the call from my dad. My dad told me he was crying from laughing so hard an hour before it happened. Completely out of the blue for everyone. My brother used to tell me that we have the ability to never, ever regret tomorrow.................................so don't.

It's just that simple. Carpe diem, Seize the day.

[KatieHal]

Oh, wow. I'm sorry about your brother, ladida.

[snabbott]

[Haids1987]

ladida, that's horrible. Unfortunately I can feel your pain all too well. And you're right, it doesn't do to waste time--carpe the hell out of this diem!

Thank you for your kind words, everyone. I understand that it's tough to know what to say. Just knowing that I can talk to you guys and be honest about what I feel--and knowing that you're all here for me--is such a blessing.

[ladidada]

It's a life changer for sure, makes your world cloudy and stormy for a long time but eventually you will remember more and more good things and these beams of light will break through these dark days and you will make it through with a stronger, more positive you. God can't always promise the skies will be blue but He can promise to always see you through.

With a year behind me, I'm not sad, I'm proud of him. He is in every way worth bragging about and in every way super without the cape ^_^ He also always fills me with a boost of never-ending confidence. My way of making him proud is I decided to absorb all the great qualities he had that I lacked and make them a part of me. He makes me a better person.

[Haids1987]

 

You are wise beyond your years.

[writerlove]

*Hugs* That is such a touching testimony to your brother's legacy. I'm sure he is smiling from the heavens right now.

And Hailey, hugs and prayers. I wish I could be of more help *hugs*

[Haids1987]

I wish I could be of more help *hugs*

You're here for me, that's all I need.

[Deloria]

Oh wow...I'm so sorry I didn't see this until now. Are you okay?

[Damar]

Sorry for the loss, Haids.  There's nothing anyone can say to make it better, and that's as it should be.  The sense of loss shows that there were good times and as time passes, it will be that you remember, not the sadness.  No loss, no matter how sudden or tragic, can take away the good memories you have of your friend.  Death may be a part of life, but those memories you have are just as much a part of life and they will replace the grief in time.

[Haids1987]

Thank you, Damar and Deloria. I'm doing MUCH better than I was--my family, friends, and God have been carrying me and lifting me up. Plus, everybody here has been amazing. I am a blessed woman indeed.

Damar, you're right; there are lots of good memories that we had together, and that's what I need to keep in my mind.  I just have to keep reminding myself: she only died one day. The circumstances were horrible, and it was a terrible day, but that can't be the first and main memory I have when I think about her. She was a good person, a true woman of God, and the world lost a compassionate, sparkling soul last Thursday.  But there were many, many days before that--when we were in mythology class together in high school; when we and a group of friends "kidnapped" our friend Wes on his birthday; when we stood in line and high-fived stormtroopers in line for Star Wars III...these are the things I need to think about. Thank you for the reminder.

[writerlove]

I agree with Damar. You have so many good memories that will always be with you. Hang on to those because they will carry you through this time. But also remember it's okay to be sad sometimes. Losing someone hurts and it takes time to heal. We're all here for you though

[Haids1987]

God have mercy!  More tragedy in the life of Haids--I found out yesterday that an 18-month old baby boy I babysit for, Anderson, died in his sleep on Tuesday afternoon. 

Father, carry me through. Whatever You're trying to tell me, my ears are wide open!

[writerlove]

Noooo I'm so sorry to hear that. Prayers are with you and his family

[KatieHal]

Oh no! Oh, that's awful.

[snabbott]

 

[tessspoon]

That's terrible! So sorry to hear that, Hailey.

[Deloria]

SIDS?

[Delling]

... so sad

[Haids1987]

Thank you all. I'm in such shock right now I can't even believe this. What is happening[/]?!

SIDS?

Perhaps, but unlikely. He was 18 months old, and that's supposed to be  waayyyyyyyy out of the danger zone for SIDS.