Kim-Cat Kissing Corner

[koko_99_2001]

*huggles Kimmie*
I'd go ahead and text him.  While you're not particularly looking for someone right now, what's the harm in looking at all the options?  Secondly, I'm sure when he is sober, he'll think something along the lines of "there is NO way I'm running from this girl."  But, yeah, let him make the decision, but go ahead and text.  He may be waiting by his phone to receive it.  I know there have been many times I've waited by my phone for it to ring...and lately, it never does.

[Kimmie]

lets hope he remembers last night lol

[koko_99_2001]

There's no way you'll know until you text him.

[Jafar]

Good luck.

[Kimmie]

hmm it might be a bit soon if i do it the day after...actually it only been about 12 hrs lol. maybe i'll wait a day or so. i dont wanna seem to eager, thats just a bit in his face

[Jeysie]

I've been told you always find a guy when you're not looking for one. Maybe the universe is trying to tell you something.

Also, if you like the guy, why hide it? I never really understood why society says you're supposed to play games by holding back saying you like someone. Seems like a lotta time wasted dancing around the subject when you could be spending your time dancing with the subject. But then, my luck has been pretty dismal, so who knows?

Peace & Luv, Liz

[koko_99_2001]

AMEN SISTER!

[Kimmie]

well its silly to look so eager. if u appear to *in yer face* then most guys go aaaaah control freak.

[Jeysie]

Well, I could understand if you, I dunno, went over to his house, ran into his bedroom, glomped him and said, "OMG, you're so hot, I want to bear your children," that he might be a little put off.

But I think that any guy who would interpret a simple text message saying "I really liked hanging out with you last night, can we get together again sometime?" as being "too eager" has some issues.

Peace & Luv, Liz

[Kimmie]

but only just meeting him and stuff and knowing from experience that if u text a guy after they hav been drinking, then they tend to regret giving you their number. getting a text puts them in a nice awkward position if they havnt got any intention in seeing you again.
only a few hours later is a bit eager dont u think?

[Jeysie]

Heh. Maybe I should cover my butt and make a disclaimer that the way I think about things may or may not coincide with the way you're *supposed* to think about things, and indeed probably does not.

Having said that... for one, I'm inclined to say that a guy who got drunk enough to lead on a girl whom he ordinarily would not be interested in deserves any uncomfortable consequences that may arise. (In other words, it's his own problem to deal with if your messaging him makes him embarrassed. And yes, I would say the same thing about a girl leading on a guy.)

For two, you'll never know whether or not he does in fact like you unless you ask.

For three, what exactly is the magic time to wait? A day? Two days? A week? Does it differ in some strange mathematical formula depending on different ages, place of setting where you met, the mean price of cotton, and the phase of the moon? I never really understood this.

Personally, if I seemed to be hitting it off with a guy, I would have either requested to set up a new date at the end of the encounter right then and there, or asked when a good time would be to contact him to set up a new date.

For four, you don't necessarily have to emphasize the romantic potential of this. I mean, what if you had simply met a girl (or a guy, for that matter) that you just thought would be a cool friend and wanted to hang out with more? Would you still obsess over when to call her? Simply saying that you'd like to hang out with someone again seems like an odd thing to get obsessed over.

Maybe this is why I don't get dates. I tend to be straightforward... pussyfooting around things just frustrates me.

Peace & Luv, Liz

[Kimmie]

well i kinda *try* not to kiss my friends like that lol!

i spose i may text him later. one of the problems was knowing what to say, i wanna leave it quite open so he can do what he wants...ball in his court type of thing.
spose just say hey had fun last night, did u? blah blah and see if he actually replies to that.

[Jeysie]

Yeah!

You don't have to go overboard (and shouldn't), but I do think you should send him *something*.

Peace & Luv, Liz

[Kimmie]

well its been done.

i dont mind if i dont get a reply, i wasnt lookin for anything was i lol!

this is the kissing thread so   Liz on cheek, kinda like air kiss! lol

[Kimmie]

wow...he replied lol. well he cant remember much, so i laughed and said i told him he wouldnt. i guess its just a wait and see type of thing. could be a good mate that come and boogys with me wen i go out, god knows i need more of them  

[Jeysie]

Thankee! (grin)

And yeah, even if nothing romantic comes of it, at least you might still have a new pal which is always a good thing.

Peace & Luv, Liz

[Kimmie]

lol, he's quick at replying, 4 texts so far. he works at a gym, he's 20, he has gone all embarrased about asking to kiss me and he lives near me.

[koko_99_2001]

Wow, Kimmie!  You go girl!  May you be the one with the luck this time.

[Kimmie]

haha i dont mind either way hun. but i'll keep ya posted!  

[Kimmie]

ok...well he asked me if i wanna go out for a drink sometime...doobeedoo